Category: Personal Development
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“Bring solutions, not problems” – Not quite
“Bring solutions, not problems” We say this to our folks as a way to push them onto being solution-oriented. We also need to stop doing this to people. This is a form of shaming people into silence. We treat addressing problems as bad and bringing solutions as good. Without a solution, someone is labeled or…
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Why the “Comfort Zone” is Important for Growth
The “stretch zone”. This magical place that we constantly push people to be in. This is where people are introduced new skills and behaviors. “This is where growth happens”. “This is how you move up the ladder”. Sure, Jan. It’s how we keep people from staying in the “comfort zone”. This is a place where…
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The Power of Connection: Communal Relationships vs. Transactional Relationships
Relationships come in various forms and their dynamics are constantly evolving. To effectively navigate relationships, we have to have an understanding of them. Two fundamental types of relationships that shape our interactions with others are communal relationships and transactional relationships. While both have their place in society, understanding their differences and the impact they have…
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Unveiling the Charms: Warm and Cool Personalities
In our diverse world, we encounter a myriad of individuals, each with their own unique personality traits. Some people exude warmth, drawing others toward them like moths to a flame, while others possess a coolness that creates an air of mystery. Understanding the differences between these warm and cool personalities can help us navigate social…
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Sternberg’s Theory of Love: Understanding the Triangular Model
Love is a complex and multifaceted emotion that has intrigued humans for centuries. While it is often seen as an abstract concept, psychologist Robert J. Sternberg proposed a comprehensive theory that aims to define and understand love in a more structured manner. Sternberg’s Theory of Love, also known as the Triangular Theory of Love, provides…
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Mastering Time Management: Strategies for Increased Productivity
In our fast-paced world, where demands and distractions are abundant, effective time management has become a critical skill for success. Learning to manage your time efficiently allows you to prioritize tasks, reduce stress, and achieve your goals. In this blog post, we will explore key strategies for mastering time management and enhancing productivity in all…
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4 Ways to Postpone your Procrastination
We’ve all done it at some time or other. We put off our exercise routine until tomorrow; we continually delay nishing that project or starting that business. Procrastination is the mother of all demons and can literally stop you in your tracks from achieving all that you desire. We first have to understand what procrastination…
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9 Ways To Combat Fear
Fear gets to the best of us, whether it is fear of failure, fear of success or even fear of fear. All of us have experienced fear at some point in our lives and it can be a real stumbling block that holds us back from being truly successful. Fear can’t hold you back forever,…
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Vulnerability and Gay Men – My Journey
Vulnerability. This is a topic that I talk about regularly at work. When I am working with leaders and teams, the conversation often comes back to the concept of vulnerability and vulnerable-based trust for healthy relationships. In “Daring Greatly”, Dr. Brene Brown describes vulnerability as “uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure“. It is choosing to share…
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My 10 Year Anniversary at Rocket Companies
It has been theorized that it takes 10 years or 10,000 hours to master something. Anders Ericsson, a professor of psychology at Florida State University, and two other colleagues published this information in a 1993 paper after researching the role of practice in violin students. On June 3, 2013, I started a new job at…